Rudolph Nyhoff, MD
AGE: 85 • Wilmington
Passed away peacefully at home with family at his bedside on a beautiful snowy Sunday afternoon, December 8, 2013. He was 85 years of age and died from lung cancer. ...
It is a cold, chilly morning but the sun is rising, the sky is clear and it is absolutely gorgeous. Life does move forward dad, but I know you would have loved to still be here enjoying it. You loved life and shook your fist at having to depart it. Rest in peace, your spirit lives on.
Rudolph Nyhoff M.D.
The Guest Book will remain active online until January 10, 2014.
http://www.legacy.com/guestbooks/delawareonline/guestbook.aspx?n=rudolph-nyhoff&pid=168461501&view=2&entry=79104270&referrer=1#sthash.rwYiU6cL.ZSL1BVSi.dpbs
Edit #1: “and India, where they rode on elephants.”
Edit #2: “his great-nephews Dana and Brett Ouellette and Luke and Marcus Jones.”
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The sunlight is beginning to suffuse the cloth blinds to dad's room (7:30 a.m.) and perhaps it's his spirit saying goodbye and that everything will be OK as time moves forward as it must. Light will continue to shine and beauty will always be present.
Breakfast at Crossroads on a chilled day, the place was sparsely filled. He had the Big Breakfast #2 and I had the French Grand plate or something like that -- French toast with scrambled eggs and sausage. I paid for the check this time, a rarity when I go out with Doug or maybe it's never happened, but with the money that he took from dad's wallet and gave to me last night. Thought it appropriate. He was there with us.
After breakfast we went to Home Depot and returned the too-large boxes for packing up dad's old medical books from the library. Doug got smaller and back home we started in on the packing in earnest, thanks to my bro's enthusiasm. At least 4 boxes were filled. Kept out the Dutch ones and he kept some personal books for his. Afterward, we restocked the empty shelves with other books, some from his room and the shelf at the end of the hallway. It was a day to get things in order and we got a good start on it, thanks to his initiative.
He painted the heating coil covers along the floor of the bathroom and worked on the toilet, later I cleaned the floor after earlier vacuuming mom's room, with her help (she picked up the rug and her feet to allow the unit to pass under her, it was an effort on her part). We got a lot done today.
After breakfast we went to Home Depot and returned the too-large boxes for packing up dad's old medical books from the library. Doug got smaller and back home we started in on the packing in earnest, thanks to my bro's enthusiasm. At least 4 boxes were filled. Kept out the Dutch ones and he kept some personal books for his. Afterward, we restocked the empty shelves with other books, some from his room and the shelf at the end of the hallway. It was a day to get things in order and we got a good start on it, thanks to his initiative.
He painted the heating coil covers along the floor of the bathroom and worked on the toilet, later I cleaned the floor after earlier vacuuming mom's room, with her help (she picked up the rug and her feet to allow the unit to pass under her, it was an effort on her part). We got a lot done today.
Got the opportunity to send in, after talking to Lucy Mealey (lmealey123
Edit #1: “and India, where they rode on elephants.”
Edit #2: “his great-nephews Dana and Brett Ouellette and Luke and Marcus Jones.”
India is the original homeland of the
Asiatic elephant.
Asiatic elephant.
Doug took it upon himself to head to his favorite store in town, Home Depot, and purchase some black paint and touch-up the railing, which in the past, had been done by mom prior to her lavish Christmas parties.
Later this early afternoon, after Olla Rudawski, 92, called for mom, I caught Dancer dosing on her favorite place in the whole house, her vantage to the goings-on in the living room and the front door:
Commenting on a post from Marli, I wrote:"She is so lazy Marli. Just loves to sack out.
She's absolutely no help around the house. And she doesn't even pay rent. Time to think eviction.
Out of here if she continues her lethargic ways. NOT! (She knows it, too.)"
Later this early afternoon, after Olla Rudawski, 92, called for mom, I caught Dancer dosing on her favorite place in the whole house, her vantage to the goings-on in the living room and the front door:
Commenting on a post from Marli, I wrote:"She is so lazy Marli. Just loves to sack out.
She's absolutely no help around the house. And she doesn't even pay rent. Time to think eviction.
Out of here if she continues her lethargic ways. NOT! (She knows it, too.)"
The first Christmas card to my parents arrived today from Kaye & Alan Ramsey, she was
the longtime RN who worked with dad at the Employee Health Clinic for years. I have
written a Xmas card back to them at their nearby address:
5426 Pinehurst Drive;
Wilmington, DE, 19808-2619.
the longtime RN who worked with dad at the Employee Health Clinic for years. I have
written a Xmas card back to them at their nearby address:
5426 Pinehurst Drive;
Wilmington, DE, 19808-2619.
Memorial Hospital, Wilmington, Delaware, 1941. Originally the Homeopathic Hospital, Memorial Hospital was demolished in 1985. It was where the Park Plaza condominiums are on Van Buren Street. This photo is taken at the corner of Van Buren and Lovering.http://www.pinterest.com/pin/270145677619016392/
Just heard from Jim Garvey on Facebook and responded to his kind words ("Just saw this, Rudy. i wish you peace. You have done your dad proud.") with this message: Thank you Jim. I have some very special, irreplaceable memories of my last months with my father. It was truly an honor to care for him, foe he was a proud and independent man. I am so invigorated and inspired by his struggle. He was so strong and reliant. Thank you for your words my dear friend. Miss your presence in the physical sense (600 miles is a long way) but feel it, regardless, in the spiritual realm. You are in my heart Jim.
Here are the first entries to the online Guest Book featured on the News Journal's obituary
link, legacy.com :
link, legacy.com :
On my walk tonight, phoned Eleanor Hyde as I walked past her and husband Ernie's home on Pickwick Drive, a few houses down from ours. She was touched by the news of dad's death and as a caregiver herself was quite empathetic to my situation. She has been caring for her ailing husband a long time, but is so glad that he is back home. He's much happier and is taking far less medication. I told her how happy I was that dad got to die at home and never went to the hospital. NO heroic efforts. He ended it where he wanted to. He died contentedly. On an interesting aside, the DigiFit app sounded a mile when I came up on her house as I reached the intersection of McCawber and Pickwick, her house directly in front of mine. Did not conclude the conversation until I was on Kingsgate Lane.
At home, looked forward to the Flyers/Blackhawks game and Philly led 1-0 after one period. After two, they were down 5-2 and at the start of the 3rd, Chicago scored quickly to make it 6-2 and I called it quits. Just too fast and too good shooting on the part of the Stanley Cup Champions. Flyers started well but fell apart in the second. No chance in catching up but I'll turn it back on before heading to bed. It's now 10:36 p.m.
This has been a memorable day.
What have I been thankful for today?
This has been a memorable day.
What have I been thankful for today?
- Having the obituary of my dad run in a great spot in the paper and to read pretty well and be liked by a number of people including Jim Garvey.
- Getting to talk with Eleanor Hyde, who found dad a great doctor, on my walk.
- Seeing and working with Doug on packing up dad's old medical books and reshaping the look of my room/library.
- Photographing a dosing Dancer in her favorite spot in the whole house and posting it on Facebook.
- To read the laudatory comments of dad on the Guest Page of the obituary link on legacy.com.
- To be able to work steadily to get the house ready for this Saturday's reception after the visitation.
- To learn that Susan and Lindsay will be staying at the Red Roof Inn for two nights and Nick will stay with me.
- Making the section to have dinner Saturday night at the Hardefeldt Country Club for the family (Susan, Lindsay, Nick, Norma, Norma Virginia, Doug, Uncle Nick, and ???).
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