Sunday, March 30, 2014

29 March 2014: Saturday ... an AM of Facebooking (more Jihed revelation including learning German) ... Mozart FB friends in Finland (HS lover) and Albania (middle name Mozartiana)

Photo: Rain? No problem. We had a short, soaking walk (by its conclusion) along the Brandywine River in downtown Wilmington at the self-named park. Met a great duo, meeting on a day they wanted to hike but were not deterred by the precipitation, one of whom snapped my photo after I took hers meeting Dancer. Such a nice encounter.
Rain? No problem. We had a short, soaking walk (by its conclusion) along the Brandywine River in downtown Wilmington at the self-named park. Met a great duo, meeting on a day they wanted to hike but were not deterred by the precipitation, one of whom snapped my photo after I took hers meeting Dancer. Such a nice encounter.
A Birder's Guide to Everything.
Michael Chen, Katie Chang, Alex Wolff, and Kodi Smit-McPhee in A Birder's Guide to Everything.

Friday, March 28, 2014

28 March 2014: Friday ... Christa (German Y enthusiast w/tendon issues) ... Danielle (Body Combat aficionado) ... 87ers tonight w/Katia ... no meet-up w/Bob or Caleb ... nice talk with Y Director Pam Howard ... 87ers half w/Katia, downtown Newark ate at Ali Baba - middle eastern restaurant ...

Getting set to feed mom, she chose turkey with veggies (these microwaveable meals are really wonderful and totally lazy cooking but the food is great), and then head on up to pick up Katia from her home (hopefully she's made it back from work) by 6 p.m. so that we can get back out onto 95 and head to Newark and the Delaware 87ers' basketball game at the Bob Carpenter Center at 7 p.m.

Good workouts this morning as I left the door open for Beth and a fellow hospice professional to draw blood from mom this am. It took two sticks but she got it. (Beth is a little hesitant regarding her phlebotomy skills.) I'd forgotten my iPhone and when I got back after 11, Skeesha's car was there and the front mat disturbed (where she'd gotten the key to enter the house). Again, a wonderful visit from just a terrific, angelic, observant nurse's aide. She is SO terrific! Well, it worked. I wasn't there and I left the place unlocked and things didn't fall apart. THANK GOODNESS!


Thursday, March 27, 2014

27 March 2014: Thursday ... spreading ice pattern on a freezing morning car windshield ... Carla and her 3 sisters chattering, Body Pump fill-in for Jennifer ... Body Vive motion poetry with Pamela ... selfie with Sandy Tilford ... yoga video sent to Gwen, hopefully onto Christine ... tax papers to Tom Szewczyk good to go ...

Jane Goodall holds a baby Cebus capucinus monkey during a 2013 visit to a primate rescue center in Chile.
An early celebration of Jane Goodall's 80th birthday, which will be on April 3rd, was a story on the npr.org web site.

Once again, rather than taking the time and persisting and showing grit, I abandoned this page last night for bed and other activities that do not benefit my being or what I believe is my essence, so, I am left to recall, a little more hazily, the events that marked the 27th day of March in the year 2014.

A frozen windshield and a spray of washer fluid led to an amazing spread of ice crystals in an intricate pattern, billions of years old, in front of me and lasted for the entire trip to the Y until the front visage of the Honda began to warm and the glass cleared. It was a majesty of joining and merging that truly expressed beauty of nature. 

Carla is a kick in the pants instructor whose constant chatter and energizing attitude is infectious. She is constantly up and spoke about her need to talk, incessantly. We were four sisters, she said, so maybe she couldn't get a word in edge wise. Well, she is an inveterate participant in Body Pump and really pushes herself and thus, her begrudging patrons. It was a good workout.

Pamela led a class of poetic movement to matching rhythmic music in Body Vive. She is a wonderful instructor and does all the movements while reciting them just prior to execution. Just amazing. I followed my friend Heidi, the one with the "feet" sneakers who I find delightful in her enthusiasm for these classes. And she is so good, does all the moves flawlessly and seamlessly. It was also a good workout and myself, and the two other middle aged (they were a bit older and probably retired, really) men in the class (for a whopping total of 3) got to watch the synchrony of the women, who truly demonstrate why they need to run the world and not men. They'd be far more effective.

Drove past a sweeping Eleanor Hyde on her sidewalk and was stopped by a van blocking my way on Pickwick in front of the park. Thought I'd be late to my appointment with Tom Szewczyk, so I moved on but then had to back up and took the time to speak to this lovely woman, who is managing and who tells me that her husband, Ernie, is doing better than her. She made a point to tell me that she'd sent a contribution into the web site that had dad's obit and testimonials, et al., and I said that I'd check to see that it went through. Don't know where to go on the web but will see. Feel sure that it succeeded. Turned up McCawber to Cratchett and then to Milltown and made the appointment right on time at 1:30. Greeted by Chris, who showed me into the waiting room and Tom appeared momentarily. They are wonderful people. Chris' mom is in an expensive nursing home in Florida, cheaper than up here, and she and her sisters are working with the financing. It is challenging for a family. 

I really like Thomas "Tom" A. Szewczyk, CPA , who I had an appointment with today, just a day short from when dad last appeared in his office a year ago and told him that he would not be back the following year due to his diagnosis. He told me that in his own words. Well, he's just an amazing guy and so personable. Loved sports growing and played baseball and does golf now. Fortunately, he's had no joint issues and thus no surgeries like knee or hip replacements. He can still walk the golf course. He showed me a Spring Training Phillies cap that his brother, retired CPA in Florida, sent him. Tom use to work for the IRS, where they treated him professionally, but took over his brother's business and bought out the other CPA. Well, we got to the business at hand and thanks to mom, he got all the information he needs for the taxes and they are set to be completed in the coming weeks. They will busy for him. He did relate a wonderful story of taking his mother, late in her life, to Orlando and how she loved the flight and demanded a window seat. She had the time of her life, he said. I concurred that moments like that are true treasures to keep and to hold, much like the writings our parents have penned. Tom has the 8th grade graduation certificate from his grandfather (?) on the wall dated 1929. 


Wednesday, March 26, 2014

26 March 2014: Wednesday ... workout shortened by mom's shortness of breath during Amy's Body Pump ... Beth visits, no key (now one under welcome mat) ... Skeesha's wonderful visit, as always ...

Photo: Dancer reminds me of a sphinx with her silent stance at the top of the steps in the living room.
Dancer reminds me of a sphinx with her silent stance at the top of the steps in the living room.

First time I had to leave the Y early to come home for a distressed mom. I called Beth and she phoned Mom, found her respiration at 7 and came to the house to find it, or course, locked. (I would come home and place a house key under the welcome mat for future emergencies.) Well, I left Amy's Body Pump in its last phase and got home quickly to find mom OK and gave her a dose of morphine which calmed her. 
We got a welcome delivery from FedEx this afternoon. The drugs, amazingly ordered just yesterday by Beth (who I texted today about those drugs and whether she'd included Tamazepam and morphine, she did because they were in the manila, sealed container), got here and I took some welcome time to fill the containers in the 7-day pill dispenser. It's nice to have enough pain and tranquilizer meds for mom. It makes her life so much more bearable. 
Skeesha came about midday and was wonderful as usual. She makes mom glow and makes the bed and is just such a lovely person. Really makes mom's day, 3X a week. I actually stayed awake during this visit and got to let her out on this windy, chill day. 
Have been driving to Delcastle Recreational Park to walk Dancer in its long, windy, narrow asphalt path around the facility and with inroads during the walk which worked out to almost 2 & 1/2 miles this afternoon. She always does her business like clockwork and gets a good walk in as I take her off the leash on a quiet afternoon with few guests. 

Robert Jones called and I vented about my feeling of loneliness and lack of success in the relationship department. I'd deleted some of the e-mails that Christine had not read on Match.com and probably never would have and I feel that she just doesn't want to get involved. Another excuse, legitimate, her daughter's illness kept us from a coffee date on Tuesday and I don't think it will become a reality. I need to back off and just let the chips fall where they may. I have no control over what happens in my relationships with women and it's best that I not force things. If she wants to get together, fine, if not, well, at least I will know and can move on to wherever. I did mention to Robert that my best friend of late has been a friend I reached out to because of our mutual love of Mozart, a Tunisian college student and Android app designer, Jihed Khiary, from Tunis. All others appear to have other interests and do not take the time to share their time with me.

I did hear back from Erica, through texting, about the tickets to the 87ers on Friday evening. She can't go as she has to work, so I have 4 tickets and only me. Perhaps Katia might be interested or somebody from church. Need to get on it as I have an appt. with Szewcyk tomorrow about the taxes and a possible date to walk dogs with Bob and Caleb early on Friday. The game is Friday night at the Carpenter Center on the U of Delaware campus. 










Tuesday, March 25, 2014

25 March 2014: Tuesday ... Core Body workout (PHEW!) ... fantastic yoga w/Christine (no Brewed Awakenings due to daughter's illness - homemade soup v. Mrs. Grass) ... mom & Beth & Dr. Maged (solving symptoms) ... SNOWING AGAIN! ... .


Final snow of the extended 2013-14 winter, who knows, but we were slated to get 1-3 inches, which I doubt will take place, and as it fell at Delcastle Recreation Park on an early Tuesday evening, it was still beautiful at the conclusion of our walk (about 2 miles in total). It included my first circumnavigation of a lovely school, Brandywine Springs (middle school?) and its spacious grounds.
The day started with high hopes for a coffee & crumpet with Christine after yoga, but that did not materialize as her daughter was ill from school and needed her mother's attention, in particular homemade soup. Another day is suspect. 

Morning Core Challenge truly lived up to its name. Pamela had set up stations, about 10, I think, four-minutes apiece and boy did it "challenge". Thankfully, I had Josh, one of 3 males in the class, who inspired and directed me on each activity and we made it through. Very taxing and rewarding, in a way. I'll be back on Friday for a continuation of this physical endurance.

Yoga was packed and Christine was masterful. Got the heart rate up and I got to see two fitness instructors, Amy (lovely physique and superb yoga form) and Pamela, take the class. It inspired. She led us through a seamless progression of moves that challenged our body posture and our strength, within our own limits. By the conclusion, spread out in corpse, I did feel spent but invigorated. Afterward, I did get to speak with her (she is so popular, I really feel like I am intruding) and she told me of her daughter's illness. No mention of Brewed Awakenings was made. I do not want to intrude or be too bold. My intent for the class was the word resolve. And be it resolved that I will not be a "pain in the derriere" to her in my insistence. I want to become her friend first, but I do not know if I will ever get to first base. It still seems a distance away. 

On a more critical note, mom had a rough day. She really feared that she would die due to asphyxiation and it was good to have Beth visit today and contact Dr. Maged. The decision was that she needed more lasix and potassium for the next 4 days. We will double the dose of the "water pill" to see about lessening the build-up of fluid around her heart and give her the potassium for the tingling in her right foot. She will now be on 160 mg. of lasix or furosemide. 

Christine mentioned, in her words before yoga, which is her specialty, about the notion of letting go of stress and how describing, at the end of the day, through words and writing, what you are especially grateful for that day, is liberating and releasing. I agree. I am thankful for my mother, for the classes at the Y, for this snow, for my dog (sleeping on the floor in the TV room next to me as I type), and my friends (in particular, touching base again with Alice and Bob). 

Failed to mention that the Hayman/Eakin family will not be able to make the ballgame but I did leave a message with Delaware Hospice for Erica, PRN nurse, who has visited mom several times in the past week or so, and who mentioned to me that she'd been to an 87ers game at "The Bob", that the tickets were hers if she wanted them. I will wait to hear her response. 

24 March 2014: Monday ... two workouts this morning (Helena on Body Pump ... sole male in the class; and then Carla, the chipmunk of activity, leading spinning ... Mom calls VISA ... reschedule Szcewyck this week?

Was so impressed with Robb Kendrick's photos for this story in the April 2014 edition of National Geographic, went looking for his Facebook. He has none. He spurns social media in place of family time and focus, so I found his web site and sent him an e-mail instead. Within a half-hour, I had a personal response from him. I was shocked and pleased with his attention.

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Dear Robb,

I feel like I can call you by your first name after reading, on your web site, your denial and avoidance of social media to spend time with your family. It is a surprising though utterly uplifting declaration of what is important in life and explains why I couldn't find you on Facebook. 

Well, to the point. What unbelievably affecting and storytelling images in this month's National Geographic in your story on "Coal". My hope is that the other images (many, I presume) can find the light of publication, perhaps in a book. They're that good and that heartrending. It is a story, especially those hellish coal mines in India, that needs telling. 

Again, Robb, thanks for your inspiring work and have a great next, six-week trip with your family. 

Sincerely yours,
Rudy Nyhoff

Wilmington, DE 
Cell: 706-544-8359

Hi Rudy,

Thanks for the kind note. Funny you saw the social media commentary.  I’m probably the only photog at NG that does not do social media or instagram etc. My days are full enough with email and  phone and letter writing to a couple of friends as well as family that I can’t take the time to participate.  I’m sure it’s a great tool but for me it’s not a great fit for my life.

A book from the work would be incredible.  Sorry to say that it would not be a big seller as the subject might be too depressing.  It was a cover story for NG, but the sales people thought it would hurt newsstand sales so hence the hedgehog photo. I get it a business decision.  Also, I think it’s hard for NG to look in the mirror and see something unattractive in ourselves (meaning the USA).  We consume the most coal per capita and are responsible for a lot of China’s coal consumption because of our buying Chinese made products iPhones etc.  Honestly I was surprised the story got 35 pages.  It was slated for 20.

Does mean a lot to hear from people who appreciate the efforts to make the images and get them out into the world.  Change will come, though I’m sure slowly.

Take care,

Robb


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Datong, China
At a coal terminal in Shanxi Province workers pick rocks from low-priced coal as it moves past on a conveyor belt. Often working without masks that would protect them from coal dust, they earn three dollars for an 11-hour shift.
Meghalaya, India
A miner works in one of hundreds of coal mines in eastern India that are neither sanctioned nor regulated by government. He lies on his back in low-ceilinged, unsupported passageways, without protective clothing, using a pick and shovel to load his cart.
Meghalaya, India
Coal is lifted out of the mine shaft two tons at a time.

Sunday, March 23, 2014

23 March 2014: Sunday ... Big Music Sunday at UUSMC (an annual event, mc'ed by Andy Levin) ... Erica's (via Kim) visit to mom tonight helps A LOT ...

It's nice to feel the flutter of your heart, whatever that means, the weakness in your knees, the breath becoming more aware as all your senses do when an individual, who I still do not know well, sat two chairs down from me against the wall (an unusual place for me) and I became very aware of my actions. She is lovely but I don't know whether she's married or not. A middle-aged man, member of the church, is by her side, at times, but I just don't know. He seems so much older and she is not young but quite toothsome in my eye. Well, we exchanged some glances in praise of the performances, which were wonderful, but really no words, not even after the service when she was close to me. I did praise the piano play of Pam Allenstein, who was speaking to her at the coat rack after the service and during the coffee/snacks/conversation time post-service. The mystery goes on and continues to intrigue. Now to the individual acts of musical inspiration/epiphany for members:


  1. Joey Tosh-Morelli, violin ... good violin bow technique on Twinkle,Twinkle Little Star but tone has a long way to go as is to be expected when playing such a difficult instrument. Kristin was glad that she got her son to perform.
  2. Kristin Tosh-Morelli, trumpet ... her playing was precise and very good as she was accompanied by Pam. Loved her articulation. Nice work -- she is quite talented. 
  3. Will Doty, piano ... simple but promising playing of the notes with one hand of Mozart's Eine Kleine Nactmusik.
  4. Kate Nolan, voice ... lovely voice and wonderful combination with the music track, a beautiful melody and lyrics, spoken clearly and intelligently. 
  5. Lauren Nolan, piano ... beautiful melody played skillfully. She is full of potential.
  6. Jeanne Hanson, violin; Heather Doty, cello; and Matt Doty, string bass ... the string trio played Amazing Grace/Swing Low, Sweet Chariot, arranged by Brian Hanson. Lots of intonation issues but Matt did a good job keeping the group together with strong string bass play. It was not unpleasant and full of passion.
  7. Karl Stomberg, piano ... wonderful start to the Adagio sostenuto movement of Beethoven's "Moonlight Sonata", the pace and notes were all there but he lost his feel for the piece and it ended too soon and too abruptly ... but he has a beautiful feel for the keyboard.
  8. Jamie Kegerise, voice ... a highlight of the morning's performances as Jamie sang the theme songs to '60s TV series The Patty Duke Show/The Farmer's Daughter/ and That Girl, not an easy task a capella but he did it abundantly well and with such humor and diction. Just loved it. 
  9. Andy Levin, guitar & voice ... so talented on the guitar and a fine singer, Andy stepped away from MC'ing the service to perform a song by George Harrison entitled Run of the Mill, composed at the bitter break-up time of the Beatles. In Andy's words, the group was run by McCartney and Lennon and Harrison's input was rarely looked upon and that caused the rift, among other reasons, one being financial.
  10. Carol Nicastro, fife ... very difficult instrument played with great aplomb by Carol, who was new to me. She plays in a Fife & Drum Group, I believe. 
  11. Lucille Avakian Karnik, piano (and composer), with Laurie Taylor Jackson, voice ... they performed Lucille's song, Gone Away, one of the few she has composed with words, in honor of her best friend, who committed suicide in the late 80s, and her ex-husband who overdosed in 2004. It was lovely piano with the beautiful voice of Laurie blending superbly (after the service had a surprising interchange with her feisty daughter as we talked and she handed me a plaque with the song's lyrics and photos of her friend and her and a pet dog and her husband). 
  12. Gordon Roth, Tom Hartline, Rachael VerNooy, and Brian Hanson ... barbershop quartet performed In The Good Old Summertime. All were clad in bow ties with Rachael's particularly affecting with her dress shirt outside her jeans.
  13. Kathe Erickson, voice, and Pam Allenstein, piano ... Leonard Cohen's Hallelujah, just 3 or so verses of the over 60, Kathe said, that Cohen wrote for this song. She has a beautiful voice and Pam accompanies singers so well. Just lovely. She came back to her seat, just across from mine and I got to congratulate her. 
  14. Amanda Ostrusky and Kristen Tosh-Morelli, voice, with Pam Allenstein, piano ... difficult balance of voices but they pulled it off. Amanda is so strong as a soprano and Kristen comes in with her strong contralto and together they pulled off this Pie Jesu from Andrew Lloyd Webber's Requiem. 
  15. Jennifer Stomberg, cello ... the professional player last was exquisite, a piece by the famed cellist from the turn of the century, Gaspar Cassado, Introduzione Fantasia, one movement. It really did cover many of the moods and sounds of the cello and started to bring me to tears with its heartrending melody. Beautifully played by Jennifer. 

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Wonderful PRN Nurse for Delaware Hospice, Erica, on call this Sunday, came
to visit mom not long after I spoke to Kim, the nurse that pronounced dad and
saw him early on the morning of his death, 8 December 2013, who returned my
phone call to DH this early evening. Erica was meeting Dancer for the first time.
She's never had dogs and would prefer a cat for her two children, a boy 8 and
a girl 5. Unfortunately, she is a single mom but gets help from her mom and her
ex- in the care of their kids so she can work. The children were with their
grandmother tonight. She's amazingly connected to her work and really spends
special time with mom and made her feel a lot better after her fearful bout of chest
and stomach/intestinal pain this afternoon which resulted in her calling me as I walked
Dancer at Delcastle Recreational Park. 

Saturday, March 22, 2014

22 March 2014: Saturday ... epiphany in yoga w/Christine and Gwen at "Fit to Give" fundraiser, Western Y ... mat next to Y director Pam Howard ... won tickets to 87ers game ... great walk with Dancer at Delcastle ... Flyers win 5th straight against best NHL team, St. Louis Blues, 4-1 ...


This morning's yogaflex was team taught by Christine and Gwen and it was special. Covered all the bases. Provided challenge both physically and spiritually as we connected with our bodies. They divied up the activities and as one instructed, the other could circulate and observe and provide instruction. I felt it worked and felt a special closeness when Christine came close by. 

21 March 2014: Friday ... Zaryana's daughter Veronika, 4 (such blue eyes, mother & daughter) ... Pamela for core challenge ... Renee for Body Combat ... sauna ... Jay for lunch (still waiting on call) ... Bach link from Jihed via FB message ... walk grounds of Brandywine Springs Middle School w/Dancer (where I hit my HR all those years ago in Jr. HS)

They, Zaryana and daughter Veronica, 4, have gorgeous blue eyes. I spoke to her by the coffee station after my workouts and she prepared to go downstairs to do her favorite group exercise, Body Pump. 

Friday, March 21, 2014

20 March 2014: Thursday ... 1st day of Spring ... Hallelujah ... A Great Day ... filled with wonderful interactions (so many to document) ... Brandywine Springs Park history ...


  1. Poor mom has the cold that I had and she's congested, coughing and is miserable. Thankfully, we got a visit from a PRN nurse, Erica, who entered with her laptop in her folded arms and was thoroughly helpful (I'd called Beth Kincaid earlier and she said that she was wrapped up and said that another nurse would come visit ... got a call almost immediately from Erica). I went to RiteAid and got some Mucinex and it helped right away with it's combo of pain relief, decongestant, and cough suppressant. 
  2. Fantastic Body Pump with Jennifer Fawzi. She really got into it and taught the moves so well. Afterward, I told her so and then kidded her that she should talk to someone at the "Y" about getting on full time. "I do work here full time," she chimed back. 
  3. Got my login straight for Expresso HD and road a moderate course of just over 5 miles, not too much terrain, and road for a little over 20 minutes after Body Pump. Nice finish. Did not have the energy to do spinning like John does, who, by the way, had his knee go funny in BP and had to take it easy for awhile.
  4. Delightful Heidi (the one who wears the foot-shaped athletic shoes and absolutely loves Body Combat by participating with intense zeal) , whose name I learned today, manned a volunteer slot for a booth detailing the fund drive by the Y for its yearly goal to raise money to assist needy members and other needs. There only about 1/2 there and the Fit to Give campaign, which is this Saturday, the 22nd, is just a part of it. 
  5. Learned from a woman, who I did not know, but who immediately picked up on my kidding at the coffee station when she brought back her cup and I asked where she'd made it to my liking. She said she had. I felt serendipity and asked about caring for an aging parent who had a cold. She had some good suggestions: Mrs. Grass chicken soup (comes in a box, which I found at Acme and saw Susan Okarski (who checked my few groceries ... Mrs. Grass chicken soup mix, mango Popsicles), who told me about a longtime nurse, who lived in Limestone Gardens and died a few days ago and who worked for Dr. Georgieff, who I think was the Okarski's doctor), some sherbet, which I could not find. 
  6. Fantastic walk and return to memory lane and learn history at Brandywine Springs Park. Posted Dancer on a trail above the Red Clay Creek on FB and got some tremendous responses about the park's history.

     

Made our way to Brandywine Springs Park which the Red Clay Creek, seen in the back, traverses and was treated to a history lesson. Dancer walks near the boardwalk that took people between amusement sites at a former park, now all oer'grown and just whispers of a generation gone. Fascinating and nostalgic. What you don't know about your own neighborhood. — with Dancer at Brandywine Springs State Park.
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