Saturday, May 31, 2014

31 May 2014: Saturday ... Brandon Bobeck AC repair ... brilliant day ... Mom on steps ... last day of May ... calling Herb Stouffer ... great visit with Heide ... late night at Stanley's w/Katia




Brandon Bobeck worked on a rare Saturday (they alternate, the 30 or so technicians) for a good 3 hours to put in a new condensate pump and had to, contrary to what he wanted, run the line in the same spot as the old, worn out copper tubing, which he replaced a section of and then put in plastic tubing. We have yet to run the AC but as I type this, I feel the heat of an 80-degree day and summer is coming. So, I'm glad the work is done, even though the price was steep (over $900 but no installation fee, thought it was going to be over $1,000, maybe he felt sorry), because we are going to need this cooling.


Heide Harper's beautiful orchids in her home on Gap Newport Pike outside Avondale.


Company that retired Herb Stouffer joined recently as a staff geologist in Fort Worth, Texas.  

30 May 2014: Friday ... Lindsay's 24th birthday ... Marli Stam-Schouten's birthday ... Nashville riverboat trip on 7/11 ... mom's text ... mom's call

General Jackson Dinner Cruise & Show in Nashville Image

29 May 2014: Thursday ... gift to a panhandler ... racquetball at Central Y with neighbor Chris ... Ektelon products ... female boxer ... Elsmere Wawa ... auto work by Julio


It's not Chris and me by a long-shot but it is racquetball and we played about 7 - 8 games at the Central Y in the basement, where I won the last one, barely, in well over an hour on court. I ached the rest of the day having used running muscles that have not been used in years or at least not in my workouts in recent months at the Western Y.


Borrowed a racquet from the Y and it
was more than serviceable. 

Wednesday, May 28, 2014

28 May 2014: Wednesday ... Maya Angelou died today at 86 ...

"Make a way out of no way."

~Elizabeth Alexander, Yale University

Tuesday, May 27, 2014

27 May 2014: Tuesday ... great workouts with Pamela & Christine ... Mom watching the birds from her bedroom ... Walmart pay-it-forward moment ... bought a fan ... called Horizon about AC check & repair


I recommend bird feeders for housebound people like my mother. They are beginning to find and gather around the seeded bounty and delight my bird watching mom. — with Virginia Rose Nyhoff at Bedroom of her Limestone Gardens home of close to 51 years.


Monday, May 26, 2014

26 May 2014: Monday ... Memorial Day (a day made more meaningful by Rev. Greg Pelley's service yesterday) ... Loyd Dillon's father he never knew ... cookout at Katia's ... Dancer splits a screen door ... John H. Taylor, Jr. essay post

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"Memorial Day. May 26, 2014. In memory of my father of whom I have no memory -- Loyd Dillon, Sr. who was killed in the Allied invasion of Sicily on August 1, 1943.Also, of course, in memory of all the others --the countless others--who were killed in combat." Loyd Dillon's post for today. 

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She seems so innocent on the lovely porch of Katia's home before we had our Memorial Day meal grilled on her gas grill, but later, when Dancer saw her cat, Kitsune, in the yard, she darted and tore a hole in the screen door as she chased the cat. It happened while we were eating.  

Sunday, May 25, 2014

25 May 2014: Sunday ... gorgeous day ... bday of Ralph Waldo Emerson and Debbie Murphy ... wonderful service by Rev. Greg Pelley ... great talk with Steve Mortensen ... Jane Frelick *HUG* ...

 
Ralph Waldo Emerson 
" Don't waste yourself in rejection,
nor bark against the bad,
but the chant the beauty of the good."

 
Debbie (today is her birthday) & doctor daughter Rebecca Cantu

Good long walk with Dancer today at Pike Creek Valley abandoned golf course and it exhausted both of us at 3.6 miles, spoke to John "Gooser" Webers for an extended portion of the walk ... at least 2 miles.

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A new passion on Match. com ... here's how she writes "Genuine":I'm intelligent, funny, kind, musical, self-aware, and other adjectives, too. I'm a writer/editor in my professional life, and a musician in my other life. I was away from Philadelphia for many years, and moved back about 9 years ago. I love so much about this city. I'm a mentor to a young woman who is aging out of foster care, and, although it is not a big part of my life time-wise, it's a big part of my life. I love live theater, movies, exploring, playing music with other people, walking, talking, laughing. Seeking someone on a similar wavelength, with similar values. 

Saturday, May 24, 2014

24 May 2014: Saturday ... Brunch at the Hayman/Eakin home ... Dancer's doppelganger ... riding bikes with Katia ... 81-year-old pushing a crippled pug ... working together to assemble bike rack ... documentary of wild child & Jill Bolte Taylor (hope and peace)


Dancer & Buddy are the same coloration, exactly, and
seem to mirror one another. Amazing likeness in two dogs at Bob and Alice's brunch and conversation.

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Katia got to attend to both Goldens in the passageway
between the kitchen and the sun room of the Hayman/Eakin home.

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The wonderful outdoors of the Hayman/Eakin historic home site across from Mt. Pleasant HS, where Caleb will be staring in the baccalaureate program this fall as a freshman.

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Bob was smitten, as I knew he would be, with Katia.

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Hayman/Eakin/Buddy Family portrait at end of brunch and visit this Saturday, early pm, 24 May 2014.

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Katia communes with Buddy before our departure from the Hayman/Eakin household after brunch/visit.

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After brunch at the Hayman/Eakin home, we traveled back to Limestone Gardens to feed and converse with mom. Afterward, we drove back to north Wilmington and rode bikes for the evening until time to head back to LG and get dinner and meds for mom. All in all, an enchanting day. 

Friday, May 23, 2014

22 May 2014: Thursday ... early workout w/Cheri (Cardio, Core & More) ... Kristin conversation ... Stacy comin' over ... overcast "Yucky" day ... lunch next week w/Stacy & Mom

An early workout today -- 6 a.m. -- with Cheri and Cardio, Core & More  (tough workout with a half-dozen women ... did a lot of balance work and jumping on the bosu ... I found it difficult but sweaty work, definitely raised my heart rate for an hour) allowed me to talk a bit with Kristin, manning the entrance desk alone this morning, the day after her graduation with an RN degree from Del Tech. She is working and studying to pass her boards in about 6 weeks and will be off to Zambia to be with her husband, Kabaya (a Zambian native), who is a white water instructor on the Zambezi River. There are over 70 native languages in the country where she will be working in a health clinic that serves thousands. She will be gone for two months, leaving the second week of August. She will be missed, terribly. Such an engaging and lovely presence at the entrance to the Western Y. 

Up the Zambezi without a paddle
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Another wonderful session with Stacy washing and cutting mom's hair. WE  really do not see
enough of her. She's working odd 12-hour shifts and she is busy with the house and Joe and just life. We did bring up the possibility of doing lunch, together, mom included, at Cafe Valentina's, next to Happy Harry's as Stacy put it, next week. Mom was enthusiastic but wary ... could it mean her being removed from hospice. I said no way, they want you to demonstrate wellness and initiative, they're not just in the palliative medical business.

While ordering my usual veggie omelette, rye toast, and home fries at Mary's Kountry Kitchen this early afternoon, I got a FB message from Patricia Childs. Erika, Joe's girlfriend, passed away last night due to complications following surgery. She was home with Joe and I have no other details. A tracheotomy had been performed the day earlier in the hospital and he felt as though she came home too soon. I have sent a card and I just composed (don't know how appropriate to send a digital condolence via Facebook) these words to my gentle, gifted musician:
Dear Joe, Patricia informed me of Erika's passing last night and I don't know whether it's appropriate to FB message my sincere condolences (a card is in the mail), but I am heartstruck at your loss and wanted you to know that my thoughts and yes prayers (concentrated beams of caring) reach out to you at your time of grief. Please know that if there is anything I can do for you, I will without hesitation, even hundreds of miles away. I am with you my friend and wish only the best for you ... please take care and accept the ministrations of all who love and feel your pain. In loving and everlasting humankindness, rudy Just watched, thanks to the FB post of Loyd Dillon, a fascinating video of an interview with Sir Arthur Conan Doyle talking about the origin of Sherlock Holmes (modeled after a medical school professor with uncanny diagnostic powers) and his dedication and study and belief of spiritualism to contact the dead, which he affirmed with absolute certitude as true. As a result of watching this and reading the astute commentary on Loyd's post, I FB friended an individual, who I think is a freelance writer married to a medical professor of surgery in Terra Haute, Indiana by the name Leah Cummins Guinn (). She wrote a startlingly vivid and well composed piece on the spiritualism of Sir Arthur. She accepted my friend request immediately and we shared a few FB messages. Amazing connectivity and enlightenment through social media. 

23 May 2014: Friday ... met Kristi from Claymont, speech therapist, in Core Challenge ... helped CJ unload treated lumber (6"x6"x8') loaded to limit in SUV (leavin' for Texas in September) ... talked to Ernie Hyde tonight about ambulance visit last night ...

On my walk tonight at Delcastle, dark but the clouds were visible and the lights burned their individual spheres to the ground below ... Dancer did her business, as she always does, sooner than later, and I disposed of the deposit in the nearest trash can. Then, I thought to call Eleanor about the ambulance last night -- I'd forgotten to call earlier -- and Ernie, to my surprise, answered and told me, after I'd identified myself as Dr. Nyhoff's son and a friend of his wife's, that he'd fallen in the bath and was unable to get up and could not be assisted by his loyal lifetime partner. She called 911 and the Millcreek Fire Department EMTs and ambulance dutifully arrived to get him up.

He's fine and suffered no ill effects from the fall. But great to talk to him. He sounds good and fit, his voice strong.


Wednesday, May 21, 2014

21 May 2014: Wednesday ...

                                                            Early morning selfie with Dancer.

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A like-minded spirit? We shall see. She lives in Princeton and teaches HS English.

Involved day that I felt connected to and it began at the Y when I did not make cycling but worked out to start in the exercise room and the stretching area where I saw Jamie Kegerise and where I worked up a sweat with the medicine ball, moving it around my torso and legs like a basketball, and then doing 20 minutes on the Expresso HD before 9 a.m. and then got ready for Body Pump with Amy, a full house, with a good contingent of males, one of whom I kidded because he looks like Novak Djokovic and I congratulated him on winning the Italian Open over Nadal and dedicating the win to his home country of Serbia which is undergoing terrible floods. The workout was good ... I soaked by blue t-shirt from Shepeard Blood Center, one of many. I just love working out there and meeting so many incredible people.

On a purely serendipitous note that almost makes me question the existence of a higher power, I was responding to an e-mail sent from Christine who commented that she did recognize the young lady, Anne, and wondered if she had a brain injury. As I started to write, who walks up but John, the fellow that has nicknamed me "Mr. Grimace" and has obviously some motor and physical issues. Well, he suffered a significant brain trauma in a, you guessed it, car accident where he was, in his words: "In a coma from Halloween till Thanksgiving when I smelled the turkey and woke up." We talked and I shared my history of brain trauma and surgery and even had him feel the scar under my hairline where the craniotomy took place. Just incredible timing. I sent several e-mails to my yoga teacher, who I appreciate wholeheartedly, and it's so nice that she responds to my writing, which tends to be excessive. Hers is concise, mine wordy, but I feel like our friendship is growing. Tonight, as I walked Dancer around the neighborhood for a little over two-mile walk (and spoke to Doug, too), almost gave her an actual phone call to talk about my sense of serendipity. But I did not. Don't really want to impose.    


At home, the claim adjuster, Dan Hathaway, arrived early. Young and qualified he did an able and correct assessment of the damage. It will run, he estimated, about $ 2,000 - 2,500 to repair (replace the plaster/wallboard section damaged by water and repaint the entire ceiling). It is all an ongoing process.




Tuesday, May 20, 2014

20 May 2014: Tuesday ... meeting Anne Dunlap thanks to Gwen ... Katia and biking/brunch ... Bob and Alice ... bike rack & helmet


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Gwen Hays, yoga and fitness instructor at the Western Y, introduced me to an extraordinary young woman this late morning, Anne Dunlap, who taught me about perseverance in the face of adversity and disability. She was injured severely in a car accident at age 18 in 1998 (she is a graduate of St. Mark's HS and Del Tech, where she earned her 2-year degree in four years -- she had planned to attend Virginia Tech until the accident with her boyfriend on Kirkwood Highway when their stalled car was struck by a DART bus). She asked that I write her an e-mail and I thought why not take a selfie of us on the tread mill. It does not do her justice as she she is an exquisitely beautiful young lady who could model with her looks. What a delight to get to meet her today thanks to Gwen's initiative. 


Hurried texts with Katia and her proximity to Bob and Alice prompted her request that I pick her up to visit my mom. She also mentioned riding bikes. her own. She wants to start getting some exercise. As a result, my mind went whirring and I called and then e-mailed Bob with the request to bring a visitor to brunch on Saturday. He responded right away and said bring her on, so I'll pick up Katia with my new bike rack (which I just ordered from Amazon) and my new bike helmet (also ordered from Amazon with 2-day shipping, so I should get it by Thursday). 

Monday, May 19, 2014

19 May 2014: Monday ... Doctor/Nurse visit from Hospice ... refill bird feeder (Mom's lovin' it) ... Associates at Forwood Independent Living (success ... Thom is back, not singing, yet) ... beer at Tyler's

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Gordon and Margaret and the rest of the Associates participate 
in the group sing following our performance at the Forwood Manor Nursing
Care Independent Living off Marsh Road (near Graves Road), negotiated by Joanne's familiarity
of the area with Robbie on this Monday evening. A delightful evening with
participatory elderly who sang the songs and truly enjoyed the visit. 
So, mom loves the bird feeder and asked that I refill the depleted store of seed that had been eaten by mostly small birds and thankfully, no squirrels, to date. And I found a chair in the document room of dad's office and went out the door, rarely used, and set it up under the feeder and refilled it this morning. It was satisfying.

A call, in addition to mom's, just before Body Combat with Renee indicated that Hospice was sending one of their physician managers to do an evaluation of mom along with a nurse, Renee, one of her case managers. I left early to get back in time but they beat me there and I got to meet them in the bedroom -- Dr. Altimuro (sic), tall and muscular and Italian with a New Yorkish accent and the toothsome Renee. It was a good visit and I believe mom will be ok'ed for continued maintenance through DH. The other call, which I did not answer, came from the insurance company and the voicemail detailed that an adjuster would call and arrive in the next two days to check on the claim for water damage in the living room.

I got that call from at Dan Hathaway and he will arrive at our home this Wednesday at 1 p.m.

And I forwarded Composer's Datebook to Larry Stomberg and he responded with gratitude and the need to sign up for the e-mail. It concerned the first performance of the B-Minor Mass of J. S. Bach in this country, the first full one being New York with 500 performers and a full house. There was mention that one director send off to Europe for two oboe d'amores for historic accuracy.
           NMM 4075. Oboe d'amore by Johann Wolfgang Koenigsberger, Roding, Oberpfalz, Bavaria, ca. 1730. Oboe d'amore by Johann Wolfgang Koenigsberger,
Roding, Oberpfalz, Bavaria, ca. 1730. 

... the University of Southern Mississippi choirs and the Meistersingers Civic Chorus as they perform Johann Sebastian Bach's Mass in B Minor

A great example of how a simple, mundane exchange can lead to a revelation with a simple comment. Bought two cards -- a birthday card for Lindsay from her grandmother (only card in that category) and a congratulatory missive for Susan on her upcoming marriage -- the cost being $6.28. I asked the cashier, a young lady, whether she could compute the money returned from my $10 bill in her head without looking at the register. She assuredly said "Yes" because she was going to be a math teacher and loved the subject. We shared a few words on the basic and integral nature of math in all of life's endeavors and I mentioned my experience with a good math teacher, who it turned out also was good at spying on me and reporting to the principal but all is forgiven. We do what we need to do for our family and if it means throwing someone under the bus, well, it's hurtful but sometimes necessary. Back to the exchange, it was uplifting, almost exponential in benefit to my spirit.


Jegyzet: Szünidei matematika    Heni, a nap szépe


Sunday, May 18, 2014

18 May 2014: Sunday ... Susan called to say she'll marry this summer ... Linda's service ... A Cappella group sang beautifully and expressively ...

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Children's story time told by Linda Lucero with Kristen Tosh-Morelli holding the book during Linda's 60s service at church today. It went well. Notice Judy Papenhagen in the 3rd row. She returned after a lengthy stay in New York moving her Aunt Flo and checking on her ill mother. Her favorite aunt, 89, fell and broke her hip and required a replacement and had to be moved to a senior care center in Massachusetts. All went as well as could be expected and it was good to see her back in Delaware.

Photo: In the woods near Bark Park, Dancer poses leashless against a setting sun. (OK, it's a quasi-setup photo as I encouraged my girl to pause within the spread of descending rays.)
Dancer off leash in the woods next to Bark Park at Carousel
Equestrian Center's land, a New Castle County park area, during
our walk this late afternoon. 

Saturday, May 17, 2014

17 May 2014: Saturday ... a gorgeous day ... a lot done ... drugs arrive (FedEx and DE Hospice unbelievable) ... yard work (pulling and clipping) ... My portrait by Katia at Mt. Cuba Center ...

On this historic anniversary, the 60th of Brown v. Board of Education, my lifelong friend, Bob Hayman, wrote the central piece on the editorial page of the News Journal, entitled 

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"Remembering Justice Earl Warren’s surprising legacy".


Katia's furtive photo of me at the Mt. Cuba Center
during our extended lunch (hers) visit on Friday, 9 May 2014,
when the gardens were open for a National Day for horticulture or whatever.

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Just finished watching an extraordinary performance by a young pianist on WHYY's On Stage at Curtis, Andrew Hsu, playing a piano sonata by Samuel Barber, his Opus 26. Extremely difficult but played with facility and warmth and understanding by this eloquent young musician who is also a composer. He performed songs he'd written to the poetry of Emily Dickinson early in the program, aired each weekend and which was a staple for mom and dad as they both watched it together on the big bed, laying next to one another. 

Thursday, May 15, 2014

14 May 2014: Wednesday ... SingIn at the Kimmel Center for the Arts ...


Philadelphia Orchestra SingIn: Assistant director Michael Rossi, soloists, and members of the Orchestra acknowledge the applause of sing-a-long choristers at the Kimmel Center's Verizon Hall early Wednesday evening. We had just concluded the final chorus of Part 2 of Handel's Messiah, the famous "Hallelujah" after performing a good portion of Part 1.

It was my first visit to the impressive performance venue in downtown Philly on Broad Street. I sang tenor next to Bernie, who hadn't sung in 25 years and was a bit "rusty" , and members of the Mendelssohn Choir, plants in the audience of mostly amateur vocalists. They were good, too, as nary a wrong note was voiced.

Great and joyful experience. And free, too, except for the parking.
 — at The Kimmel Center for the Performing Arts.

Monday, May 12, 2014

12 May 2014: Monday ... Body Pump w/Helena & Body Combat w/Renee ... 1st oil change for '12 Accord ... mowed lawn (Skeesha arrived) ... the birds at Shipley Manor Nursing Home ... pianist/singer audience member

I was the sole male in a packed Activity Room at the Western Y this morning when Helena, the beauty of Brighton, began her Body Pump workout at 8:00 a.m. I have no problem with that but it is a bit lonely and male companionship would be appreciated. It was a good workout as Helena runs a mean and hard working shift with the weights and bar. Before the start, spoke to a regular, Carolyn, who has worked out all her life but says she avoided sports in high school due to inherent clumsiness (which I tended to doubt). She knew my name and I had to ask hers. Tutt, tutt Nyhoff!

Seagull at Brighton Beach in England.
Afterward, took Body Combat with Renee and that's always invigorating and instructive. She is a great teacher, much like Helena but a different style (a different workout, of course), but I got to be next to one of my favorite (and really, only) German friends, Christa. She is  very good at BC and so enthusiastic (she leaves a bit early to do a later Body Pump in the AR) and there was, in the front, the always delightful Heidi. Next to me (there were a total of 3 men in BC) was a newcomer, a self-professed double black belt who taught the art for 8 years consistently, every day. He was short, bald headed and lean and he definitely knew the kicks and punches but was shaky on the routines (of course). All in all, a great workout. I'm learning to really enjoy BC thanks to the enthusiasm of the participants. Oh, forgot to mention the slim (she birthed two 9-pound babies) Theresa, all of 100 pounds soaking wet, who was the Energizer Bunny with her knee lifts and her running in place. Inexhaustible. 

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Too chunky for Theresa. 

Sunday, May 11, 2014

11 May 2014: Sunday ... Mother's Day ... Flower Communion at Church ... relationship assumption w/Maggie ... Hispanic twins, uno mas nina a cinco ... Mom as artist ... joyful conversation (again) w/Eleanor ...


Mom created this painting/picture on the iPad with an app I downloaded. It is called "Foolproof" and indeed, you can't miss with it. After you load the picture -- this one of Dancer from the Wilmington Flower Market at Rockford Park yesterday at the performance venue as I sat eating lunch with Katia -- you just use your finger and stroke the image to completion. Took her a while to figure it was her favorite dog but she got it after a little bit and enjoyed the activity. Hopefully, she's doing the same with the second pic I downloaded from Facebook, the one of me petting Dancer along the Brandywine River taken by the women couple under the bridge on a rainy afternoon last month.  


Saturday, May 10, 2014

10 May 2014: Saturday ... Twitter reactivated (runiclins) ... Wilmington Flower Market ... "Moms Are Priceless" ...

Need to start tweeting and Scott Simon's commentary on the connection of Match.com to baseball was an impetus. It was excellent and pungent and witty as all his commentaries are on Saturday Morning Edition, so I redid my password (booboo186) and tweeted to Scott (nprsimon) that he'd hit a home run with his short essay. Need to amass a group of favorites and start reading and commenting to the issues of the day, for at least a portion of the time that I'm online. 

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     We ate "Koi" fish tacos (mine sans cilantro) at the              Katia sat in an Adirondack chair she loved.
      performance venue of the Wilmington Flower Market.

      
                   Bought this at the Flower Market from a retired auto sales executive
                  who is a master craftsman who makes gorgeous Adirondack chairs
(see above w/Katia) in 7 hours.                       

9 May 2014: Friday ... Mt. Cuba Center lunch break w/Katia ... Liz & Frank's Mother's Day flowers ... English yew w/docent Dick Cloud ...

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Mom gives Liz a Thank You call for the flowers in the background.

An English Yew plant is a beautiful growth. There are two at Mt. Cuba, anniversary gifts to the Copelands from some 80 years ago. They are youngsters but are huge. Our docent guide, Dick Cloud, said they live 100s of years and were used by individuals to fashion strong and long bows for launching arrows. Hard to imagine as the plant's limbs are twisted and short but some have length, so, with age, I imagine, there could be large enough boughs to work up a weapon the height of a 6-foot person.
This English yew is a lot larger than the one at Mt. Cuba.